What Is a Divorce Doula—and Why I Became One

I never set out to become a Divorce Doula.

After years of questioning, once I finally decided to leave, I thought the hard part was behind me—the years of not knowing whether he would finally heal and get help. I finally accepted the truth and was delighted to move on. I thought the hard part was behind me.
But I was wrong.

What came after—the courtrooms, the gaslighting, the legal costs, the pain on my child’s face, the retaliation cloaked in legal motions, the way the system bent itself to protect power—that’s where I almost lost myself.

And that’s where this work began.

What is a Divorce Doula?

A divorce doula is someone who walks alongside you during one of the most difficult transitions of your life. I like to think of it as having a birth doula and a death doula—but for the death of a relationship and the birth of a new life.

A Divorce Doula isn’t your lawyer.
She’s not your therapist.
She’s not here to diagnose or litigate.

She’s the one holding a flashlight in the dark, saying:
“I’ve been here. I know the terrain. You don’t have to do this alone.”

A Divorce Doula helps you:

• Sort through the chaos—legal, emotional, financial, and spiritual
• Navigate high-conflict divorce and post-separation abuse
• Create documentation, safety plans, and parenting strategies
• Reclaim your voice after years of gaslighting or coercion
• Make sacred meaning out of something soul-shattering

And most importantly, she reminds you:
This isn’t the end. It’s the beginning of your rebirth.

Why I Do This Work

​I do this work because I lived it.

Because I walked out of a relationship where I was silenced, surveilled, shamed, and dismissed. Because I spent years navigating a court system that punished me for trying to protect myself and my child.

Because I went searching for support—and found too few people who truly understood the terrain of post-separation abuse.

Because Spirit whispered, “This is not about you and him. This is a collective issue.”

And because I realized that my story isn’t just my story—it's ours.

I do this work to honor the women who came before me—the ones who didn’t survive the process, or who still live in hiding, emotionally or physically.

I do this for the mothers trying to stay sane while preparing court documents on three hours of sleep.

I do this for the woman scrolling the internet at midnight thinking, “What do I do now?”

I do this because no one should have to walk through the fire alone.

What I Offer

I work with people at every stage of divorce—from the quiet first whispers of “something’s not right,” to the breakdown, the leaving, the legal onslaught, the rebuilding.

I offer:

• 1:1 coaching
• Support with court preparation
• Emotional and spiritual recovery tools
• Rituals for grief, boundaries, renewal, and power
• A 44-card oracle deck for reclaiming your truth after relationship loss
• A self-paced healing course (launching this fall)
• A recovery journal, and more

Because divorce isn’t just a legal event. It’s a soul initiation.

And like any sacred transformation, you deserve to be held through it.

You’re Not Alone

If you’re reading this with a pit in your stomach or a lump in your throat—if you feel lost, angry, exhausted, afraid—know this:
You’re not broken. You’re breaking free.
You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You just need a hand to hold. A next step. A witness.

That’s what I’m here for.
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With deep gratitude to all those who walked before me--
I have devoted my life to paving a better way for all those who walk after.

​With love and deep gratitude to walk alongside you,
💖 Natasha
Divorce Doula • Artist • Survivor • Advocate
​Certified High-Conflict Divorce Coach • Reiki Master • Educator